When I read Isabel Wilkerson’s book Caste in 2020, it provided context for so much I had heard in my family and community. Her “eight pillars” provided a structural framework for what I had dismissed as individual prejudices. I recommended the book to my siblings and many others, as a way of giving us tools to understand off-hand comments and deep-seated beliefs.
I don't know about your family, but in mine, there's always this tendency to minimize, put a bright side on things, explain why it's really not so bad, ask why are we focusing on the negative, to puff things up.... I wonder, sometimes, if there's a culturally imposed will to stay blind to unpleasant truths.
I don't know about your family, but in mine, there's always this tendency to minimize, put a bright side on things, explain why it's really not so bad, ask why are we focusing on the negative, to puff things up.... I wonder, sometimes, if there's a culturally imposed will to stay blind to unpleasant truths.